Find Your Peace this Christmas: A Guide for Mums and Dads
"The shoe that fits one person pinches another; there is no recipe for living that suits all cases." – Carl Jung
Christmas can be a magical time, but let's be honest, for parents and carers, it can also be a whirlwind of stress and expectations. Between juggling family traditions, endless social events, and our little ones' big emotions, it's easy to feel a bit frazzled. However, by embracing a little mindfulness and some gentle co-regulation strategies, we can create a Christmas that feels truly joyful and authentic for our family.
Honouring Your Family's Unique Traditions
As our families grow, our traditions naturally evolve. It's all about finding that sweet spot between honouring the old ways and creating new rituals that feel right for your crew. Whether it's a big, noisy family barbie, a quiet night in making decorations, or something in between, remember there's no "right" way to do Christmas.
It's so easy to get caught up in the pressure of social media, with its endless stream of picture-perfect holidays. Let's give ourselves a break and focus on what truly matters to us, rather than comparing our reality to someone else's highlight reel. So, let's find the "holiday shoes" that fit our family best and create some beautiful memories without the weight of unrealistic expectations.
Helping Our Kids Navigate Their Big Feelings
The festive season can be a lot for little people. With all the excitement, disrupted routines, and new faces, it's no wonder they sometimes feel overwhelmed. As the grown-ups, we can be their calm in the storm. Here are a few practical tips for a smoother festive season:
Give Them a Heads-Up
Have a chat with your kids about what's coming up. A simple, "We're off to Nanna's for lunch, and then we'll have a play before heading home," can make all the difference in helping them feel prepared and less anxious.
Create a Quiet Nook
At busy gatherings, set up a quiet little space where your child can go to chill out. A soft blanket, a favourite book, or a few special toys can create a comforting retreat for when it all gets a bit too much.
Stick to Routines Where You Can
While Christmas often throws routines out the window, sticking to familiar meal or bedtime schedules as much as possible can help your children feel secure amidst the holiday buzz.
Be Their Calm
When your child is having a tough moment, your calm presence is everything. By taking a few deep breaths and speaking in a soothing voice, you're not just calming them in the moment, but also teaching them how to manage their own feelings down the track.
Get Them Involved
Invite your kids to help with simple festive tasks, like decorating biscuits or wrapping presents for their cousins. It's a lovely way to connect with them and help them feel like a part of the Christmas magic.
A Little Reminder for You
Remember, looking after your kids starts with looking after yourself. Make sure you grab those little moments to recharge, whether it's a quiet cuppa in the morning or a quick walk around the block. A calm and happy parent is the best present you can give your family.
This Christmas, let's embrace the moments that truly matter to our families. Creating spaces where big emotions are met with love and understanding, can help our kids enjoy the magic of the season without the meltdowns. The most wonderful gift of all is being real—in how we celebrate and how we connect with each other. For more ideas on creating a meaningful holiday season, check out my previous blog, Deck the Halls.
Love,
Chelle ❤️
Special Educator Complex Supports and Family Support Specialist
